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"Type the words "domestic violence" into any search
engine on the web and you will get thousands of related web sites. Ask anyone
about how you should deal with domestic violence and you will get
different opinions. Ask the question, "Why did someone have to die because of
violence?" and you could hear a pin drop.
Domestic violence should never happen to anyone, period. But
it does happen. You may be living with
someone who is stalking and/or abusing you. You may have a friend, family member,
co-worker, or neighbor who is being abused right now. But
contrary to what you have been taught or believe, you should not be quiet about
it or keep it a secret.
In the world of Domestic Violence, piecing the puzzle of your
life back together can be overwhelming, especially if you do not have all the
pieces of the puzzle to work with. It’s a proven fact that most agencies
that deal with victims of domestic violence have a state of the art domestic violence
prevention program. The sad thing is that there are a lot of cracks and gray
areas in these programs and most agencies do not communicate with each
other and this fact alone can leave you vulnerable and will give your abuser/stalker opportunity to
strike out against you.
If you are a victim of domestic violence, it is important to
remember that it is not your fault no matter how much your abuser or anyone else tries to
convince you that it is. Your case is not an isolated one, and help is
available no matter what you have been told. Domestic violence occurs in families of every race, religion, class, ethnic group, education
level, sexual preference, and occupation.
There are many types of Domestic Violence:
- Physical Abuse
- Emotional Abuse
- Sexual Abuse
- Economic or Financial
- Workplace Violence
- Child or Elder Abuse
- Teen Violence
- Legal Abuse (Purposely
violating court orders or keeping you tied up in the legal system)
Domestic Violence is not normal behavior.
it's against the law, and it should not be tolerated.
R.E.A.C.T. is not a law firm
nor do we practice law. We are not counselors or therapists. We are the
missing piece of the puzzle. We are the people who fill in the cracks of
domestic violence so that you don't fall through them.
We do not sugarcoat
domestic violence and we understand that a piece of paper issued by the courts
called a restraining order is not enough to protect you and/or your family from
you do have a restraining order in hand you better have a safety plan in the
Domestic violence will not go
away by itself. Just because you leave your abuser or avoid him/her does
not mean that the abuse will stop. Taking your life back is not suppressing the problem or
hiding behind a locked door because if your abuser really wants to get to you he/she
will. Stopping the violence is not
about letting other people make your decisions for you either. It is important
that you surround
yourself with the right kind of help and support but it is you who
ultimately needs to be in control of your life; not your abuser, not your family
or friends, the police, your attorney, not the courts, not even us, but you.
It is very important that
you understand that when you take the control away from your abuser you will be
in constant danger because when you take control, your abuser who was once in control will
be totally out of control..
When you take the control
away from you abusers, in his/her mind they
are now the victim and you have wronged, betrayed, and abandoned them and they
will re-invent themselves and use whatever tactics, resources,
family, or friends whether they are yours or theirs to get to you. Your abuser will discredit you, tell lies about you,
and paint a negative picture of you in order to isolate you and drive you back
into their control.
Your abuser will do
everything in their power to convince you that you cannot make it on your own
without them and that you need him/her. But no matter how much they say they
have changed, how much they promise to change, how much they say they love you,
how sorry they say they are, how much they promise that it will never
happen again, how much religion they have found, how many tears they say they
have shed, or how many threats they make, or if you have children and they
threaten to take them away, do not fall for it.
Understand that this is
dangerous time for you. Neither you nor your abuser can just flip a switch
and stop the abusive or violent behavior. And the next time someone tells you
that time heals all wounds you need to be thinking in the back of your mind, "I
wonder what kind of wounds I will have next time."
No mater how much shame you
are feeling or what you think you have or have done or how much you ignored or
lied about the abuse there is still help. Just leaving is not enough but there
will come a time when you will have to leave and you will need to be prepared.
At R.E.A.C.T. our mission statement is simple and to the point.
mission is to provide our clients with an aggressive training and
education program that will empower them to take their life back
put them in control; not their abuser.
violence is not about the power of love, but the love of power and control."
A simple, "I love you" or a promise cannot fix a history of domestic violence.
You do have a choice! Be a victim or
If you are ready to take control email us at:
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Please contact Allen Emory at: firstname.lastname@example.org
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