R.E.A.C.T.

Your Abuser May Monitor Your Internet Use and May Be Able To View your Computer Activity. If you have reason to believe that your computer is not secure, you may wish to use a secure computer that your abuser will not have access to…………................................................................................

"Type the words "domestic violence" into any search engine on the web and you will get thousands of related web sites. Ask anyone about how you should deal with domestic violence and you will get one-hundred different opinions. Ask the question, "Why did someone have to die because of domestic violence?" and you could hear a pin drop.

Domestic violence should never happen to anyone, period. But it does happen. You may be living with someone who is stalking and/or abusing you. You may have a friend, family member, co-worker, or neighbor who is being abused right now. But contrary to what you have been taught or believe, you should not be quiet about it or keep it a secret.

In the world of Domestic Violence, piecing the puzzle of your life back together can be overwhelming, especially if you do not have all the pieces of the puzzle to work with. It’s a proven fact that most agencies that deal with victims of domestic violence have a state of the art domestic violence prevention program. The sad thing is that there are a lot of cracks and gray areas in these programs and most agencies do not communicate with each other and this fact alone can leave you vulnerable and will give your abuser/stalker opportunity to strike out against you.

If you are a victim of domestic violence, it is important to remember that it is not your fault no matter how much your abuser or anyone else tries to convince you that it is. Your case is not an isolated one, and help is available no matter what you have been told. Domestic violence occurs in families of every race, religion, class, ethnic group, education level, sexual preference, and occupation.

Domestic Violence is not normal behavior. It's wrong, it's against the law, and it should not be tolerated.

R.E.A.C.T. is not a law firm nor do we practice law. We are not counselors or therapists. We are the missing piece of the puzzle. We are the people who fill in the cracks of domestic violence so that you don't fall through them.

We do not sugarcoat domestic violence and we understand that a piece of paper issued by the courts called a restraining order is not enough to protect you and/or your family from your abuser/stalker.

"If you do have a restraining order in hand you better have a safety plan in the other."

Domestic violence will not go away by itself. Just because you leave your abuser or avoid him/her does not mean that the abuse will stop. Taking your life back is not suppressing the problem or hiding behind a locked door because if your abuser really wants to get to you he/she will. Stopping the violence is not about letting other people make your decisions for you either. It is important that you surround yourself with the right kind of help and support but it is you who ultimately needs to be in control of your life; not your abuser, not your family or friends, the police, your attorney, not the courts, not even us, but you.

It is very important that you understand that when you take the control away from your abuser you will be in constant danger because when you take control, your abuser who was once in control will be totally out of control..

When you take the control away from you abusers, in his/her mind they are now the victim and you have wronged, betrayed, and abandoned them and they will re-invent themselves and use whatever tactics, resources, family, or friends whether they are yours or theirs to get to you. Your abuser will discredit you, tell lies about you, and paint a negative picture of you in order to isolate you and drive you back into their control.

Your abuser will do everything in their power to convince you that you cannot make it on your own without them and that you need him/her. But no matter how much they say they have changed, how much they promise to change, how much they say they love you, how sorry they say they are, how much they promise that it will never happen again, how much religion they have found, how many tears they say they have shed, or how many threats they make, or if you have children and they threaten to take them away, do not fall for it.

Understand that this is dangerous time for you. Neither you nor your abuser can just flip a switch and stop the abusive or violent behavior. And the next time someone tells you that time heals all wounds you need to be thinking in the back of your mind, "I wonder what kind of wounds I will have next time."

No mater how much shame you are feeling or what you think you have or have done or how much you ignored or lied about the abuse there is still help. Just leaving is not enough but there will come a time when you will have to leave and you will need to be prepared. At R.E.A.C.T. our mission statement is simple and to the point.

Our mission is to provide our clients with an aggressive training and education program that will empower them to take their life back and
put them in control; not their abuser.

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