We are here for you.
We are finally in your new training center .
March 14, 2015
After many years of developing our programs that are specifically designed to help victims of domestic violence, stalking or those that are being bullied, we now have a training center to call home. We are self-funded and we do not charge individuals of abuse for our services.
Our group is made up of volunteers who realized that there are some things that you just cannot put a price on. Some people invest their money in their church, their community or other non-profits. We invest our money in victims of abuse in the hopes that we can save lives and help victims to become survivors. The return on investment! That our survivors turn around and help other victims to become survivors. We are victim advocates paying it forward.
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March 14, 2015
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March 14, 2015
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If you are a victim of domestic violence, stalking, or if you are being bullied there is help. Please tell someone and seek help. You should not live in fear when so many people in your community are prepared to help you. You are not alone.
Welcome to nomoredv.com
Type the words "domestic violence" into any search engine on the web and you
will get thousands of websites on the subject.
Ask anyone how you should help someone who is a victim of domestic violence and you will get endless opinions.
Ask the question, "Why did someone have to die because of domestic violence?" And you could hear a pin drop.
Domestic violence has been taking place since early man. But Domestic Violence should never happen to anyone, period. But it does happen. You may be living with someone who is stalking and/or abusing you. You may have a friend, family member, co-worker, or neighbor who is being abused right now. But contrary to what you have been taught or believe, you should not be quiet about it or keep it a secret.
A victim is a victim just like a survivor is a survivor. Although more women are victims of domestic violence than men, a man or a woman can be either one or the other. Our programs do not discriminate against men, women or any gender based relationships. Our programs were developed to help any victim, man or woman from being abused, stalked or bullied.
If you are a victim of domestic violence, it is important to remember that it is not your fault no matter how much your abuser or anyone else tries to convince you that it is. Your case is not an isolated one, and help is available no matter what you have been told. Domestic violence occurs in families of every race, religion, class, ethnic group, education level, sexual preference, and occupation.
There are many types of Domestic Violence:
- Physical Abuse
- Emotional Abuse
- Sexual Abuse
- Economic or Financial Abuse
- Workplace Violence
- Child or Elder Abuse
- Teen Violence
- Legal Abuse (Purposely violating court orders or keeping you tied up in the legal system)
- And many other controlling factors
R.E.A.C.T. is a Safety Plan designed to help protect our clients from their abuser, stalker or bully.
Our program is designed to be a realistic program. It is not intended to dictate commands or to force our clients to adhere to a program they do not understand or are not willing to participate in.
The program was designed to educate and help each client to think, talk, and be honest about their circumstances and situation. To remain safe they must acknowledge that they have a serious problem and that they need to modify their lifestyle and the things they do for their own safety.
R.E.A.C.T. is a program designed to work in conjunction with the courts and other agencies with a common goal: To empower the client by giving them the resources and tools they need to make responsible day to day decisions regarding their safety, health, and wellbeing.
Most people use the term “thinking outside the box”. We want our clients to get rid of the box. A box is a comfort zone and we do not want our clients to become complacent or retreat and become boxed in with a false sense of security.
But what about Restraining Orders! Isn’t that enough to protect a person?
Restraining Orders are a must and we recommend that our clients obtain one. From a legal standpoint your abuser, stalker, or bully will be served due notice by the courts to stop harassing, threatening, or coming around you. With that said; Restraining Orders can’t fully protect you.
A Restraining Orders is a court order with conditions or rules spelled out by the court directing the abuser or stalker to cease from all types of harassment and not to have any contact with you or to be near you.
There are consequences for the abuser or stalker if he/she breaks the rules imposed by the court. But remember; a restraining order provides a false sense of security because abusive people do not always play by the rules.
Domestic Violence is all about control. It is very important that our clients understand that when they take control, their abuser, who is losing that control, will now totally be out of control. And the abuser/stalker will do whatever is necessary to regain that control. In order to regain control they will require access to their victim which means that they will violate a court order or use any means available to get to their victim.
Many victims who died from Domestic Violence Homicide had active Restraining Orders in place at the time of their death.
"The guarantee of safety in a battering relationship can never be based upon a promise from the perpetrator, no matter how heartfelt. Rather, it must be based upon the self-protective capability of the victim. Until the victim has developed a detailed and realistic contingency plan and has demonstrated her ability to carry it out, she remains in danger of repeated abuse." - Judith Lewis Herman, Trauma and Recovery